The first date can be ruined by these dumb things. Read all the way to the end before you leave.
Men sometimes try their best on dates, but from a woman’s point of view, they act like idiots. They take showers, clean their shoes, and care about how their hair looks, but they don’t pay attention to something more important: the psychology of relationships. There are some mistakes that girls will never forget.
1. Giving away too much
You see her. You like her. You invite her to your house right away, don’t you? Obviously, talking to a girl about her day-to-day life and her thoughts may not be that interesting to you. Of course, it’s fine if a girl also wants to move forward. But a woman who wants a serious relationship isn’t likely to be interested in a stubborn macho. A proposal to start a relationship right away is also a surefire way to fail. This is really gross.
2. Not taking any sexual risks at all
This is the opposite of the first case. Girls and their problems! They are confused about what they want. Let me use my friend’s story to show what I mean. He asked a woman who liked the outdoors to go for a walk in the forest with him. All day long, they walked around, talked a lot, and picked up two buckets of mushrooms. So, the shy lover asked the girl’s permission to kiss her. She sighed and said, “Finally!” “I thought I had wasted all day eating mushrooms.” Got it?
3. Showing up late to a date
Women are the only ones who can afford to take their time, which is not the same thing as being late. And their reasons are good: to do perfect makeup, curl her hair, change her mind, and straighten her hair, try on three dresses, cry, and do her makeup all over again can take more time than she planned. Men, on the other hand, can’t be late. If you show up even 20 minutes late, you risk making the girl think you’re not reliable and just plain rude. Gosh, how dare you?
4. Having no plan
You should have a clear plan in place before the date begins. Where are you going to take the girl? Where are the best places for a walk? Where do you want to eat? It doesn’t matter if the whole scenario is played out again at the end. The important thing is that this exact situation does happen. Trust me, no girl wants to hear, “Did you think about where to go today?” Any girl wants a guy to take the lead. Just deal with it and try to come up with a plan for at least the first few meetings.
5. Excessive bragging
It’s normal to want to show off your skills and accomplishments. But some men are so eager to tell interesting stories about their lives that a date can turn into a long speech about how great they are. At first, it bothers me. She might even start to doubt that you’re telling the truth in the future.
6. Not looking after her
Look at your girlfriend. If she came on a date wearing high heels, your plan to go to all the best parks in the city would probably not work.
Yes, walking outside in the fresh air is great. But girls are very sensitive, so comfort is very important to the vast majority of them. If you don’t want to see tears on her face instead of happiness, choose “to have a good time at a restaurant or to watch a movie.” Put the active scenario away for a later time.
7. Getting meals that are hard to eat.
On a first date, you should never eat wings, ribs, or anything else that you can’t eat without getting your hands dirty. While you’re focused on a juicy piece of meat, the sauce trying to “settle down” on your chin won’t do anything to make you more charming. When they get the chance, girls who are easily swayed will run away from you. In this case, you can’t even dream about your first kiss.
Also, before the first date, try to find out if your girl is a vegetarian. After all, if the answer is yes, you should find a good restaurant with a tasty vegetarian menu.
8. Giving other girls attention
Since you asked this particular girl out on a date, do her a favor and don’t give gifts of thanks to other women. Even though you seem like a caring person, try to be a man and pay attention to the girl who came to meet you. If not, it could be your last date. Girls have a special kind of peripheral vision, and even if you think that all your looks at other women will go unnoticed, you are very wrong.
9. Too much whining
The best way to win her heart is not by trying to make her feel sorry for you. She will, of course, listen to your sad stories about how your beloved dog was hit by a car when you were six, how the leader of a local gang made fun of you at school, and how you are undervalued at work. She will listen to you, feel sad for you, and then vanish. Losers and whiners are not what women want. It is neither sexy nor trustworthy. Work on yourself and be a man who is strong and can move mountains, or at least tries to.
10. Giving a phone more attention than a girl
Just put your phone down. Your girl will appreciate it much more than if you brought her the most beautiful roses. Your willingness to spend the whole evening with her, without checking your Facebook messages or Instagram feed, says a lot.